Change – Adversary Or Ally?

Post Date: March 14th, 2010

An Inspiration Magazine Article

By George Cappannelli                      

Change?  You bet! A lot of it! Each day, at work, at home and in the world around us, we are being asked to juggle increasingly complex demands – the challenges of our jobs, the needs of our families, the demands of our communities, and the desires that issue from the depths of our own souls. Often this juggling act can feel like it is being performed on a tight rope high above the ground and without a net.  Here in this turbulent atmosphere we must contend with the cross currents of unprecedented technological development, rapidly shifting social and political structures, new roles and rules and, of course, with the many other challenges and opportunities that life brings our way each day.

The result?  Many of us risk losing not only our footing, but our ability to focus effectively on our work, to relate constructively to our loved ones and to give adequate attention to our own physical and emotional health. Of particular consequence, many of us risk losing touch with our passion for the dreams we have come here to accomplish. And where we don’t risk losing our balance because of these challenges and changes, we risk losing it because of our resistance to them.

Do we have to lose our balance? No.  There are other choices we can make—more constructive, empowering choices.  In fact, not only is it possible to maintain our balance, it is essential.   Our success depends on our ability to welcome rather than resist change, to look upon it as an opportunity to master new skills and gain new levels of understanding and experience.  Our success depends on our willingness to view change as a guest who arrives bearing the gifts of opportunity, discovery and understanding, not as a dreaded specter that has come to disrupt our lives.

How Do We Accept Change?

Even if the change we face is one that we define as negative, the answer is simple.  And my answer does not mean we have to start doing a lot of new things.  Instead we need to first stop doing some of the things that we are now doing that limit and obstruct us. And one of these things is called ‘resisting change’.

You see, although many of us want to believe that it is possible to keep things the way they are, stasis is an illusion. Nothing in the physical universe stays the same.  As a result, our efforts to resistance to change are unnatural, as are our inclination to tense up, close down, hold back, project negative consequences, worry, doubt or cling to what the way we have done things in the past.  Please notice that none of the things on this list are pleasant to do.  They require a great deal of time, effort and energy, and none of them have ever gotten the job done for you.

But don’t take my word for it.  Conduct a quick mental tour of your world. Chances are you’ll discover that you and a number of people around you hold some outdated beliefs and practice some pretty limiting behaviors.  Not out of malevolence, we might add, but out of habit.  Yes, in far too many instances the first and the last thing most of us do when confronted with change is say No rather than Yes.  We try to hold back the new and different.  We deny and avoid the change for as long as possible. And yet, as we’ve pointed out, these behaviors don’t help us or our organizations become successful.  In fact, in the end, resistance to change isn’t even possible because change is unavoidable.

25 Keys To Making Change Work For You

So if you’re responsible for a business or just for yourself; if you are developing a new product or service or trying to make your current one better; if you’re trying to improve workflow, team performance or even just deal with your own, change can be your best ally rather than your adversary.  

The same is true in your personal life.  Holding on to old beliefs and limited behaviors will not lead you to greater intimacy, provide you with greater competency or success.   Nor will limited beliefs, old personal history or rigid rules that no long apply will lead you to the best and highest game in town—greater connection with and knowledge of yourself and true connection with others.

So my recommendation is – Make change your ally!  Welcome it into your world.  Be willing to experiment with new behaviors and beliefs.  Try these tips and some of the other 25 Keys To Making Change Work For You.  In short, learn to say yes to change and to life!

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